MAY // 24 // 2018
DON’T CRY OVER SPLIT ENDS
A few days ago, I had a moment of vanity insanity. After my trip to the salon to get a trim and to shape my afro, I returned home, looked at myself in the mirror and completely fell apart. My hair was sooooo much shorter than I wanted. I honestly couldn’t believe that I was literally crying, but there I was, in the middle of the bathroom…in real life tears. Was I really this vain? Am I THAT attached to my hair? No ma’am, this couldn’t be so. I love short hair! I have gone from shoulder length to less than an inch length, to shaved sides, to green hair, to a pixie cut, straight hair, to curly hair. I’ve done it all and realized that I really have no attachment to my hair, so these tears were definitely deeper than hair.
I’m a bit of a free spirit. I’m very nonchalant, a little impulsive and not very disciplined. Committing to grow my hair out and not succumbing to the scissors, and sometimes the razor, is not about hair, but about staying true to my word, disciplining myself, and committing to a task…finally! To see that the sacrifices and the work that I put in, in and effort to reframe from breaking the commitment to myself, were gone and literally swept away into that little hair vacuuming machine, was painful! It was heartbreaking. I’m still not fully over it, but this I do know is that because of the cut, my hair is crazy healthy, split ends are gone, my curls are poppin, and the length will come right back….one day.
Take a look at my hair choices over the years.
See, I’m not that attached, but I care about growth and progress. In regards to my current condition, I will work with the fresh and healthy hair and watch it grow.
Moral of the story: Sometimes you have to cut off the dead ends in your life. You may cut off more than you intended and the after shock may bring you to literal tears, but the growth and progress is worth the heartbreak.
Don’t cry over split ends, girl.
PS: Looking at the before and after pictures, I may have overreacted….
OCTOBER // 19 // 2016
caring for box braids
My favorite protective style is by far, hands down….Box braids. I’m completely obsessed. I try to put my hair in this protective style at least twice per year, for at least 6 weeks at a time, during the Summer and Winter. During that time, I make sure to go for regular touch ups so, my edges are always fresh.
As we all may know, caring for your hair underneath ANY protective style is crucial. It should be understood that your real hair is always the number one priority. With that said, find a braider who shies away from braiding your baby hairs. Those fine hairs around your face should be avoided when braiding. You should NOT experience tension or tightness after your braids are complete.
While wearing box braids, I try to shampoo my scalp every two weeks as opposed to my regular wash schedule, since I don’t use as much product, my hair doesn’t need to be shampooed as often. I actually find it a lot easier to shampoo my scalp when I have box braids because I can put the cleanser directly on my scalp because of the parts. After I shampoo, I proceed, as usual, with a leave-in and hair oil, then sit under a hair dryer to prevent any mold or mildew from forming on my scalp. It’s very easy to neglect your hair when it’s in a protective style, because it’s hidden, but that’s the most important time to pay the most attention to your hair and especially your scalp.
Here are a few of my go – to products that are on rotation with, and without, box braids.
This particular shampoo is actually a mud wash. This wash is without any chemical detergents, foam boosters, protein thickeners and coating agents, emulsifiers, preservatives or fragrance. There are a number of fragrances (derived from essential oils), but I love the way the lavender scent smells. I typically only use it when I have braids because it’s easier to distribute and rinse completely.
I was introduced to this leave in by my hair stylist, Johari at Flowerchilds Studio Salon, and I have never looked back, nor will I ever look back. Y’all, this ish right here! This is life! (Insert Praise Hand Emojis). It’s light and smells right. It’s in a spray bottle to prevent heavy handed people like me from using too much. I use this product damn near every day of my life. Without braids, I use it to refresh my curls, daily. With braids, I spritz it on my hair after a cleaning. I purchase mine directly from the salon, but trust me you will NOT regret this purchase.
I can’t really attest whether or not this oil has hair growing properties because I have to take into consideration that my hair was in a protective style and I was taking the Mane Choice Hair Vitamins, but I really like this oil. When your hair is in box braids or twists, oiling your scalp is easy peasy. The parts are already there! This particular oil has an applicator which makes the task a lot easier. Now that I have taken down the braids, I still apply the oil to my scalp and give myself a little scalp massage. 🙂
Protective styles are a must when you need to take a break from styling your own hair, and it gives your hair a break from you! Just keep in mind that this is not a hair vacation, hair still needs to be cared for and maintained.
What’s your favorite protective style?