So this is me…I’m reaching, I know, but I have a reason for plastering bathroom bikini selfies all over the world wide web, and it’s not thirst. Just keep reading…
I have been searching for a leopard bikini since I was allowed to wear a bikini and lo and behold, I walk in Target and there it was! It was like the Bikini gods opened the white sand beach heavens for me. You will never know the excitement in my soul when I laid eyes on this baby. Fast forward to my mom’s house. I tried the kini on, over my knickers, of course, which explains the green ruffles you see peaking through the bottoms. Sidebar: Ladies, you never know the places these bikinis have been, and to be quite honest (and sanitary), you don’t want any of those places making their way to your place, if you know what I mean.
Of course I had to snap a few pics for my girls, cause that’s what we do. I mean, I look good, don’t you think?? I thought so, too, until I actually realized that I’m in the minority with that thinking. Let me break it down for you. I’ve been skinny all of my 33 years (34 on August 10th. gifts are accepted) of life, well except maybe here…
Anyway, for the most part, I’ve always had a small frame, that’s simply the way God created me, yet, for some reason, I’m still the object of the “you need a sandwich”, “you’re so skinny” “you need to gain weight” remarks. I am often asked, with a straight face, “do you eat?” Ummmm, no actually I don’t. I don’t drink, either….I’m kinda not breathing right now….I’m a robot. Of course I eat!
More often than not, I have been shamed because of my weight and size. It’s not always intentional and may come from a good place, but I can tell you that it doesn’t always feel good to hear someone call you a “Skinny Bitch.” No really, that’s not a compliment. It’s body shaming is what it is and body shaming is never okay.
As humans, with any sense of compassion, we would never approach an overweight person and tell them “OMG! You’re so FAT!” Nor would we ever call them a “Fat Bitch”. So why do we think it’s okay to tell someone that they are too skinny? Is it because society has conditioned us to believe that skinny is pretty? Are we all programmed to think that because you are skinny, you should be “lucky”? And, who are we to tell another person how they should look, anyway?!
This is a subject I touch on quite often, because it’s a constant in our lives. We see it on television, we hear it in our music and we instill it in our little girls. Hating our bodies isn’t something we decide to do, it’s taught. We should encourage women and young girls to love the skin they are in. Instead of shaming one another, let’s teach each other how to love, care, and respect our bodies.
“You don’t encourage people to take care of their body by telling them to hate it.” (Laci Green)
Let’s collectively work on discouraging body shaming of ALL women. We are all made in His likeness and He is perfect!
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. – Psalms 139-14